Do you struggle to let go? Are you feeling overwhelmed with clutter, to-do lists, and back to school organization?

Every “how to declutter”  starts with getting rid of things that are expired, broken, don’t fit, etc.  It’s when we come upon those things that we once loved.  Or have happy memories attached to that prove challenging.

Just as we inherit stuff, we inherit the way with which we deal with our stuff.

I like to think that I have a much healthier relationship with the things in my home than my mother.  But upon deeper reflection, I realize that in some ways I’m just like her and other ways I make decisions just to not be like her.

Material possessions:

• Things you have purchased
• Things you have been given
• Things you have inherited
• Things you have made or transformed

can infiltrate our world in so many ways, either as a joy or as a burden. 

And before we have had a chance to master the art of letting go, we suddenly have to make decisions about our children's things.  And help them learn to make their own decisions.

It is easy to be overwhelmed by the bigger picture, especially with our children’s rooms.

We often forget that it is easy for them to feel overwhelmed too! 

We, as mothers, need to come equipped with the tools and skills to guide them in a healthy, supportive, and loving way based on their individual needs, personalities, and self-beliefs. 
Or we can continue to perpetuate those big, overwhelming feelings.

I strongly believe one of the foundational pieces to having a home that inspires you and that you truly love is being able to deal with your stuff. Finding out what your relationship is to those material possessions and creating a healthy relationship with them is a crucial step.

Attachments to things vary from person to person.

One of the things I learned when designing children's rooms is that, often, the child has begun to let go of possessions, but the parents aren't always ready because of the memories they have attached. Or the fear of their child not having this childhood possession in the future.

How do we let go?
What does the process of holding onto things look like?

Holding onto our stuff, our possessions, derives from an evolutionary survival skill. Our innate need to hold on goes back to a basic reflex we learned at birth.

One of the first reflexes, the palmar reflex, is when newborn babies grasp their hands around a finger. Around 5-6 months we typically see the reflex disappear. However, the innate need never leaves us completely.

Feelings of lack (whether it is food, love, or contact) are carried into adulthood in ways that are deeply programmed into our psyches.  Those feelings can show up as  the reasons why we hold onto things that we have no need for anymore. 

One of the most important steps to this process is understanding that connection.

It can creep up on us until it's too late and we’re faced with a problem that feels too big to tackle. 

In this episode, you will discover where you fall on that spectrum. 

Sometimes as we move onto new chapters of our lives, we’re unable to let go of the things that defined our previous chapters. 

We discuss  the process of honoring.  Which is Filling whatever you need to let go of with all of the love that it has given you.

If we don't make physical, emotional, and spiritual space for things to come in then there's no room. There's no room for the more that we desire, which can leave us feeling stuck or frustrated. 

When the universe comes knocking on your door with what you truly desire, make sure that you have shown that you’re ready for it. By creating space for it.

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