The Art of Letting Go
OF THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU SMILE
Do you struggle to let go? Are you feeling overwhelmed with clutter, to-do lists, and back to school organization?
Every “how to declutter” starts with getting rid of things that are expired, broken, don’t fit, etc. It’s when we come upon those things that we once loved. Or have happy memories attached to that prove challenging.
Just as we inherit stuff, we inherit the way with which we deal with our stuff.
I like to think that I have a much healthier relationship with the things in my home than my mother. But upon deeper reflection, I realize that in some ways I’m just like her and other ways I make decisions just to not be like her.
- Things you have purchased
- Things you have been given
- Things you have inherited
- Things you have made or transformed
can infiltrate our world in so many ways, either as a joy or as a burden.
And before we have had a chance to master the art of letting go, we suddenly have to make decisions about our children's things. And help them learn to make their own decisions.
It is easy to be overwhelmed by the bigger picture, especially with our children’s rooms.
We often forget that it is easy for them to feel overwhelmed too!
We, as mothers, need to come equipped with the tools and skills to guide them in a healthy, supportive, and loving way based on their individual needs, personalities, and self-beliefs.
Or we can continue to perpetuate those big, overwhelming feelings.
I strongly believe one of the foundational pieces to having a home that inspires you and that you truly love is being able to deal with your stuff. Finding out what your relationship is to those material possessions and creating a healthy relationship with them is a crucial step.
Attachments to things vary from person to person.
One of the things I learned when designing children's rooms is that, often, the child has begun to let go of possessions, but the parents aren't always ready because of the memories they have attached. Or the fear of their child not having this childhood possession in the future.
How do we let go?
What does the process of holding onto things look like?
Holding onto our stuff, our possessions, derives from an evolutionary survival skill. Our innate need to hold on goes back to a basic reflex we learned at birth.
One of the first reflexes, the palmar reflex, is when newborn babies grasp their hands around a finger. Around 5-6 months we typically see the reflex disappear. However, the innate need never leaves us completely.
Feelings of lack (whether it is food, love, or contact) are carried into adulthood in ways that are deeply programmed into our psyches. Those feelings can show up as the reasons why we hold onto things that we have no need for anymore.
One of the most important steps to this process is understanding that connection.
It can creep up on us until it's too late and we’re faced with a problem that feels too big to tackle.
In this episode, you will discover where you fall on that spectrum.
Sometimes as we move onto new chapters of our lives, we’re unable to let go of the things that defined our previous chapters.
We discuss the process of honoring. Which is Filling whatever you need to let go of with all of the love that it has given you.
If we don't make physical, emotional, and spiritual space for things to come in then there's no room. There's no room for the more that we desire, which can leave us feeling stuck or frustrated.
When the universe comes knocking on your door with what you truly desire, make sure that you have shown that you’re ready for it. By creating space for it.
COME SAY HI
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"What items are you struggling to let go of, even though you know their time has come?"
"If you change the way you look at things,
the things you look at change."
I let go of what no longer
serves me so that all I desire
can show up in my life.
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Crystals to Work With:
A powerfully supportive stone, It helps you move through stuckness to release and let go. Imagine a crystal clear stream flowing as you hold it close.
Color to Work With:
The fear of letting go often comes from a survival response that we carry from childhood. Sitting on the floor with a straight spine, visualize an orangish-red light entering the base of your spine and stabilizing your lower spine.
Chakra to Work With:
By strengthening your root chakra, you will feel supported in whatever actions you are taking, feeling safe to proceed.
Celestial Insights: Exploring the Mysteries of the Moon
Waning Crescent Phase
"What does this mean for me?"
As the full moon fades, our focus turns inward, fostering reflection and contemplation. Unlike the outward energy of the waxing cycle, the waning moon encourages us to direct our energy within, assessing personal development. Within the waning moon's low-energy phase, honoring achievements and strengths is essential. Identifying habits, negative thoughts, and stressors fosters self-awareness, readying us to transform in the upcoming new moon phase. Ultimately, the spiritual essence of the waning crescent lies in self-connection, cultivating freshness and heightened awareness as the new moon emerges.
"What else is happening?"
Prepare for the upcoming Mercury retrograde by allowing extra time, confirming appointments, and anticipating technical hiccups. Tap into creative energy, engage in art therapy, and tackle life's challenges using imaginative approaches. This weekend, cooperation and boundaries are key, addressing both real problems and the need for healthier patterns.
Moon in Aries brings action, ideal for short projects and research, while Venus and Uranus stir excitement and internal restlessness under a Taurus Moon.
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DESIGN A BEDROOM THAT IS AS UNIQUE AND AMAZING AS THE GIRL WHO LIVES THERE
DESIGN A BEDROOM THAT IS AS UNIQUE AND AMAZING AS THE GIRL WHO LIVES THERE
- Great design goes way beyond bedding and wall color.
- It encapsulates the needs of the girl who dreams, sleeps, and grows there.
- It supports her changing emotions and grows with her ever evoloving needs.